Does this sound like you?

You’ve gotten to a place where you don’t quite know who you are anymore. Life seems to be going on auto-pilot and you can’t seem to catch your footing. You discover you are not finding joy in the things you once did, and wonder if you can ever get back to a place where you can. The excessive worry, the pain you are in, and the difficulty making decisions has you stuck.

You have always been a person that prides themselves on being the rock or the backbone of the family, and now you are feeling like you don’t measure up.  Your mind is constantly circulating a broken record of “I can’t feel that, it is not safe” or “I can’t let anyone it, I don’t want to be a burden”. You might even find yourself looking up articles on “Why do I feel so numb?” or “How do I know what I am feeling?”.

It might be that you have discovered more about your own identity, but fear letting others in your life know. You think to yourself “I can’t let anyone SEE me, it is not safe” or “Others will disown me if they really knew who I am inside”.

The fear of losing others in your life is hindering you from being who you genuinely want to be. You have read hundreds of online forums, blog posts from others you relate to, and joined all of the online groups you could find – but it is just not cutting it anymore. You are still feeling like you need more of a connection with someone while processing your pain.

Can Therapy Help?

Vulnerability, in any area or time point of your life, is hard. Opening up yourself to someone and opening up those drawers to your stored pain is an incredibly scary thing to do. I have had many individuals ask me “Why would I ever want to feel the pain?”. I often challenge them by asking what might actually be more painful – fighting to stuff the pain down for years or finally allowing yourself to feel it and process it.

Hope can seem like such an evasive feeling when everything around you feels as though it is crumbling. Hope is bred out of courage. Just researching therapists and taking the step to get help is courageous. Imagine what you would be able to achieve if you allowed yourself to be seen and heard.