Dallas Therapy Collective
Justine Kallaugher, Ph.D.
$200/50-minute session, BCBS PPO, Baylor Scott & White, Out-of-Network Provider
Does this sound like you?
Feelings are annoying. They creep up in your life day in, day out, and they always seem to make things worse. Sadness brings isolation, fear brings anxiety, and anger feels overwhelming. Some days, those pesky “bad” feelings are totally absent, and you feel numb and empty… which is only minor relief, since the “good” emotions don’t ever seem to come your way. You don’t know what to do with emotions when you have them, and you don’t know how to connect with others (or yourself!) when you don’t. You feel confused, stuck, and even irritable when thinking about your predicament.
Maybe you think to yourself—“But others have it worse! My story isn’t that bad. I have (insert good thing here), and so I shouldn’t be so greedy or needy.”
Maybe you also think, “If I could just learn to STOP feeling (insert emotion here), I’d be fixed!”
Or you wonder, “Why does everyone else seem to have it together while I’m over here falling apart? Am I just an over-reactor, or too sensitive? Am I going crazy?”
Still, despite your best efforts, your attempts at invalidating yourself and shutting yourself off from your emotions don’t bring comfort. It surely doesn’t make the other “bad” feelings go away, and it doesn’t seem to be working anymore. You are lost. You don’t know which way to turn, since every way you’ve tried already just seems like a dead-end.
BUT. A part of you has hope… if even just momentary… and wonders if there’s another way.
Can Therapy Help?
That’s where I come in. Think of me like an aerial perspective. When we’re stuck on the ground, we can only see the mess of trees and debris in front of us. I can help pull you up above what feels to be a big, chaotic mess, to see a clearer picture. Suddenly, a forest emerges out of all the trees, and it feels relieving, hopeful, and even freeing.
How I can help…
I use empathy and compassion to help you develop a new narrative on your life. One that allows for the gray area to emerge and possibilities to unfold. I want to help you put the pieces of the puzzle together to make a better story that feels authentic, meaningful, and hopeful. One that captures the wholeness of you- not only the painful parts, or even only the idealized parts, but the REAL parts. My style is active. I will sit in the trenches with you to figure out what you’re feeling, what you want to do with those feelings, and how to become the best version of you possible. I will listen and I will empathize with you. I will not place “value statements” on how you feel. While I will never tell you what to do or give you “advice,” I will sometimes challenge you to see a different side of the story to create a greater vision for your future. I use humor, believe that laughter is healing, and often use corny metaphors to get my point across (to which you are very much allowed to give me the side-eye).
My goal is to help you approach, not avoid, those pesky feelings. What once felt impossible will have possible solutions. And feelings that once felt so confusing and overwhelming can feel like helpful pieces of data that make your life more complete rather than overpowering and uncontrollable. Even more exciting is the emergence of “positive” emotions—feeling the joy, enthusiasm, and happiness that you deserve.
People I work well with:
- people who don’t know how to sort through their feelings, and sometimes don’t even have the words to describe them
- people who use avoidance or dissociation to cope, but who also know that that’s not the most adaptive strategy
- people who have chronic problems with relationships (starting, keeping, or even ending them)
- people who catch themselves in a panic or shutting off from themselves and the world and don’t know how they got there (i.e., seemingly go from 0-60)
- people who see things in the “black and white” despite knowing there has to be a middle ground
- people who may be children of alcoholics or children of parents with personality disorders (Borderline PD, Narcissistic PD, etc)
- people who are caretakers and often put themselves way last over everyone and everything else (even the cat!)
- people who may relate to the term “codependent”
people whose childhoods were at best, confusing– at worst, traumatic
- Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology – Texas Woman’s University (2016)
- Licensed Psychologist
My Full Specialties Include:
- Anxiety (social and generalized)
- Suicidality and Self-harm
- Self-esteem and self-worth concerns
- Gender and sexuality questions
- Personality disorders
- Chronic relationship concerns
- Family of origin issues
- Boundary problems
- Communication issues